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I recall a song from my preteen years: ‘Come ye out now from amongst them, come ye out and be ye separate, says the Lord and touch nothing unclean, come ye out*’

The choice of friends, co-workers, neighbours we make, directly determines the quality of life one would have. Either a life of purpose or one of no purpose. Purpose in the sense of what God has called me to be, do and have. Excluding totally what we may have called ourselves to, or think we are called to.

Come ye out signifies a separation, calling by God unto good works and His purpose.

Abram received such a call. In the place of fully being out from his brethren i.e. Lot, came the word of God to him with the promise to keep in front.

At each point, he took partial steps to come him out, His purpose remained veiled. Thus he walked with a now the Lord had said instruction. The Lord said to Abram resumed upon full compliance with his separation. The ability to heed the call in total obedience was a huge step towards actualising his purpose.
Everyone of us has a come ye out call upon our lives. A call to be used by God for a specific purpose and to a specific people.

We are all vessels, fit and put together for a purpose. In the midst of everyone else, it is easy, oh so easy to flow with the tide and not recognise our purpose differs. In the place of separation, we clearly hear our call and the attendant promise and instruction. We receive our life’s baton when we opt to heed.

Generally, as vessels there is the come ye out from sin, come ye out from the scornful, come ye out of everything unpleasing to God, that ye may be vessels unto honour, fit for the Masters use.

*Song from Happiness Club, UNIPORT Branch.

© 2nd February, 2017


The union (if I may use that word) of any two individuals is important.

Who you walk with is key. Who you run with is key. The outcome of your life and all that concerns you rests on this. How you choose your partners is key too.
Relatives we cannot choose generally but should we decided to work with them, live with them, we have chosen.

More than we might realise, God is interested with whom we partner: – in our businesses, in ministry, in relationships broadly and most definitely marriage.
For each partner, there would be a corresponding instruction and leading. Where to go, who to go the journey with, why you should go the journey together.

God is purposeful, in all of His ways, nothing has ever been done by God without purpose. The partners we pick or are picked by must be ones of purpose. Purpose that gladdens God’s heart, partners that are pleasing unto God, made just for the scenario.
When you think partners, think – suitable, comparative to, equally yoked, helpmeet, approved of God.

© 02 February, 2017

Recently I noticed a trend in my 7 year old niece, the first words she will have to say every morning is always a statement or question asking for something. If she discovers she can get it from another source she says nothing to me until a need demands she speak to me.

So I turn the search light to me….do I trust I treat my family and friends this way? Worse still do I relate with God in this manner? To say am glad the answer is a no, is trying to be humble.

You try and search yourself, do you treat God like a genie in a bottle, lamp etc? only to be spoken to when you have a need? After all the Bible says asks and you shall receive, so whenever we speak to God, not speak with Him, we are making demands: God, please change my boss? Dear God, help me deal with my spouse? Father you said ask and we will receive, so am asking a new car won’t be a bad gift?…the list is endless

As much as God desires to bless us with good things, He desires even greater that we be friends with Him. Taking out time daily to speak with Him, as we share the minutes of our day with Him.

Our God is so many things…so many beautiful things, but one thing He surely is not, is a genie. Pause and spend time with God, not asking for anything but gisting with Him, just loving on Him. He longs to hear from you

My heart has heard you say, “come and talk with me.” And my heart responds, “Lord, I am coming.”Psalm 27:8

But then I will win her back once again, I will lead her into the desert and speak tenderly to her there. Hosea 2:14

Unpublished work of Itsetosan 11th August, 2011

You can become friends with my becoming friends with the Friend for All Seasons..Jesus Christ, there are a few steps to be taken to respond to His love…its soo simple yet profound.

Acknowledge you are a sinner, living in disregard to Gods way of life and want a change.
Accept that through Jesus Christ you are made a new creature and have a friendship with God restored. Ask Jesus Christ to come be your Lord and Friend…”sinners prayer”
Ask for the in filling of the Holy Spirit, He teaches us about Jesus also.

Sinners Prayer
Lord, i acknowledge am a sinner and want to live the abundant life you purpose i live. Forgive me and cleanse me of my sins. I believe that Jesus died for me and rose again that i might have access to life abundant. Jesus please come and be Lord and Saviour of my heart and life. I give you my life. Thank you for making me a new creation, one of your friends. In Jesus Christ name i pray. Amen.

Welcome home.

This is just the first step in becoming friends with my Best Friend. You need to invest in it like all relationships for it to grow… Take out time daily to get to know Him more, begin reading His Word—Bible. May i recommend you start with the book of John. Also a chapter of the book of proverbs for everyday of the month. Please do join a Bible based church in your locality, fellowshiping with other friends of His helps(And let us not neglect our meeting together, as some people do, but encourage one another, especially now that the day of His return is drawing near Hebrews 10:25). Pray always.(Never stop praying 1 Thess 5:18)

Jesus told him, “I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one can come to the Father except through me” John 14:6

This means that anyone who belongs to Christ has become a new person. The old life is gone; a new life has begun II Corinthians 5:17

Pray in the Spirit at all times and in every occasion Ephesians 6: 18a.

God saved you by His grace, when you believed. And you can’t take credit for this; it is a gift from God. Salvation is not a reward for the good things we have done, so none of us can boast about it Ephesians 2: 8 & 9

How much more will your heavenly Father give you the Holy Spirit to those who ask Him. Luke 11:13b

There is therefore, now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus. For the law of the Spirit of life in Christ Jesus will set you free, from the law of sin and death. Romans 8: 1 & 2

It is my prayer for you: am asking God, the glorious Father of our Lord Jesus Christ to give you spiritual wisdom and insight so that you might grow in your knowledge of God. I pray that your hearts will be flooded wit light so that you can understand the confident hope He has given to those He called – His holy people who are His rich and glorious inheritance. I also pray that you will understand the incredible greatness of God’s power for us who believe Him. This is the same mighty power that raised Christ from the dead and seated Him in the place of honour at God’s right hand in heavenly realms. In Jesus name. Amen.(prayer culled from Ephesians 1:17-19)

Copyright © 6th June, 2011

To love the seemingly unlovable, to bestow my time, affection on another without anticipation of reciprocation is a lesson I learn daily of my Sweetest Teacher for I found that its easier to love the “loveable”, the one who reciprocates and encourages ones love.

Looking back over all the relationships I’ve embarked upon, to love those who related just like me was a second nature to me. Maintaining communication was not difficult for I knew though they may take a while sometimes to respond, they would surely get across to me. In my preteen age and early teenage years I actually grew to believe All humans, at least the ones I encountered and related with, did operate on this level. Then came the rude awakening in my latter teenage years that I actually had a friend with whom I carried on a monologue. I must confess the shock was rather great. It seemed she expressed her love best when we where in the same vicinity. Greatly I wondered, is something wrong with me? Surely everyone knows…yea, I have chosen to believe this, that communication is the life wire for relationships and loving. Friends don’t go AWOL on friends.

With time I seemed to have fallen into her mode somewhat as I reached across once-a-while. I had not learned anything apparently from favorite words I quoted. In my mid twenties I made new friends and if I thought my preteen and early teenage friend was terrible, these made her look good.

One day I truly pondered on going on all out to do unto them as they did unto the relationship we had. Then my ever present Sweetest Teacher questioned my decision: if you love only those who love you back, what differentiates you? What was the motive behind the loving? You, them or God? Why are you friends?

I thought to myself, but truly it is tough loving people and never really knowing if it’s a one way street you are walking on, cause you never really hear from them or if it was a highway of both, but surely to love was not meant to be so. Yet truly why did I love? Was it so I could be loved in return? Or was it an outlet to share of the love, Love has kept pouring into me? I let the questions of Sweetest Teacher wash over me, revealing my failings and purge the dead cells. It is so easy to love when the settings are favourable and the encouragement and responses are returned in good measure. To love irrespective of the others responses or encouragement is to share the Love who lives within me as I have been given soo much love. This I resolved to do.

Daily I still learn in that area that I love not because I want to be loved in return ( though sometimes my flesh does yells “won’t it be good to get a response!”) but because I have soo much love to share, which reflects my Father’s heart and never reduces or runs dry. I love because Love lives in me.
You know there’s a certain joy which comes with sharing love, it’s like a phrase I read a while back – happiness is like a perfume, a few drops touch you as you share it (my paraphrase). Has this been an easy thing…naa especially when i try to do it by my power, but Love has helped me keep at it, cause He keeps my tank every full.

A friend loves at all times…Prov 17:17a

If you love those who love you, what reward will you get….Matt 5:46a

Copyright © 8th May, 2011